We all need love, we all need attention🎼🎼that’s a line in one of sauti Sol’s song. I couldn’t agree any more, I mean look at the glow at someone’s face when they’re loved right. They literally radiate light, joy and liveliness. The joy of loving someone and being loved right back is really something.

Love will make you selfless because you want to make your partner happy and really it’s because you genuinely care about them😉 and in the end you exercise selflessness.

Love will make you patient because you’ll always wait for them and even on them, when teaching them something however long it takes it never really bothers you because hey, it’s a chance to spend time with your partner 🙂and honestly its the least you can do.

Love will make you be accommodating because we ain’t the same and however much you don’t agree with some things your partner does you choose to accommodate them as they are. 😌😍

Love will make you kind. Its really not even debatable😆

So in the end, love is amazing because it really brings out the best in us. And everyone around us gets to love the us in love. So yea we all need love and truly love changes the world to a better place. Let’s keep spreading love during this festive season. ❤❤

So yaaaayy💃merry Christmas my peeps🌸❤

Hello my people, it’s been a while😀

Selflessness is the act of always considering others before yourself. You know sometimes that’s pretty hard to keep doing, it gets tiresome at some point but hey we keep pushing because we have to anyway.

Well, in some occasions being selfless doesn’t really help because human beings have a tendency of taking advantage of situations and even of people. Once they realise you always look out for people they really want to exploit the fact that you’re nice. Someone once said there’s no reward for being nice, so in any case when you feel like they are taking advantage of that just stop. We only live once so do what makes you happy.

Sometimes you just want to see a friend happy, you get out of your way to help her or him, but then again it’s always you who is doing these for them. When it’s their turn to step up for you they are not there, they don’t even want to be associated with your problems and once you discover all these just do what you gotta do and let them go because friendship calls for us all to be selfless.

It’s okay to be selfish when you’re in a space where you can’t be selfless, it’s okay to say ‘no i’m not attending the party’ you don’t have to be always there for someone when you’re not in a space to be there for them. And that should be normalized because it’s okay to be selfish.

Lastly, let’s be kind to each other. Be there for people when they need you it doesn’t hurt. 😌😌

Life Is so beautiful and the realest. Life has a way of showing us all its sides, like today will be gloomy and tomorrow it’s a happy day and all that is still life

As humans we tend to show people the side that we want them to know about us. For example, to some people I’m so loud to others I’m a loner and to others I’m stupid😂 I mean all those personalities are mine but I choose which one to unleash to who.

I love the way we say ‘but si ni life’, because honestly ni life😆. Life has a way of humbling the proud and making the humble ones to shine at some point. Life is always teaching us that no situation Is permanent, so why not live our lives like thats the last thing we’re gonna do on earth💁

Y.O.L.O, they say you only live once🙂 and in this one life that we’re living I’m pretty sure by now most of us have experienced almost all the personalities of life, but all in all we don’t give up but sometimes it’s okay to quit if it ain’t worth it. Lets be kind to each other, you don’t know what phase of life the other person going through. In the end no situation Is permanent. Be kind, embrace whatever phase of life you’re facing and always remember to smile because THAT’S LIFE🙂🙂

Finally, I found a friend. He’s my best friend. I mean He’s this friend that sticks closer than a brother. I honestly want to be so loyal to Him. He’s such a nice friend.

I was actually reading a blog on importance of friends which are; you have someone to talk to, have someone who helps you grow and so many other reasons but I want to stick to this two reasons. You know what, if your friend doesn’t make you grow then I think that ain’t a good friend.

In Him I found myself, I grew to a better person, I learnt to love others unconditionally, I found someone I can confide in.

In the SDA hymnal no. 186,the 4th verse says, I’ve found a friend oh such a friend so kind, and tender, so wise a counselor and guide, so mighty a defender. From him, who loveth me so well, what power my soul can sever? Shall life or death, or earth, or hell? No I am His forever. This words hit me so hard. And that’s when I decided to make Him my friend.

He is this friend a can recommend you to, He never disappoints. In my favorite hymn there’s a verse that I love singing that says; I tell Him all my sorrows I tell Him all my joys, I tell Him all that pleases me I tell him what annoys, He tells me what I ought to do, He tells me how to try and so we talk together My Lord and I. Always talk to him when you can’t find anyone else to talk to. He’s always ready to listen

And so today, I present to you my new friend who is Jesus. I love Him so much. I hope you all can find a friend in Him too🙂🙂

Yaaaayy💃💃I got nominated for the Liebster award ladies and gentlemen and I feel so validated.

The Liebster Award is an award that exists only on the internet and given to bloggers by bloggers.

Special shout to Marion who nominated me for this award. Marion is also a blogger you can all follower her and read her blogs. They’re all amazing. Marion is this kasmall girl I always thought was my aagemate just because she was a bit tiny physically and also because she’ll fit in in any age group from kids to grown ups. She’s this girl who you’ll want to sit with in an event just so that you can’t get bored and also so that we can giggle and comment😂😂😂. She’s amazing

Rules for the award

1.Thank the blogger who nominated you and provide a link to their blog

2. Answer the questions given to you

3. Share facts about yourself

4. Nominate 5-11 bloggers

5. Ask your nominees 11 questions

6. Notify nominees once you’ve uploaded it

Facts about me

1. I’m an extrovert but more of an introvert(not sure if it makes sense) but the point is I’m very talkative and outgoing when I’m in groups but after leaving them I go back to my cocoon where no one is allowed there.

2. I don’t know how to make friends😒

3. I love art.

4. Black is favourite colour

5. I love listening to music than singing(ain’t that good at it)

6. I love dogs. Puppies to be precise

7. I’m scared of cats including kittens

8. I love fashion

9. I’m scared of darkness

10. I’m a good listener if I want to

11. I love maths(doesn’t look like me😂😂)

I nominate

1. John

2. Alvin

3. Terry

Answers to Marion’s questions

1. If you had the world’s attention for 30 seconds what would you say?

You’re all unique, there’s only one version of you which is YOU

2. Do you like your name? Would you ever change it? If yes, what would your name be?

Well, I honestly love my name I wouldn’t change it

3. What do you regret the most?

Every time I decieved myself

4. When you’re worried/scared, what do you do or think about to help you feel better?

I write journals, talk to someone, take a walk or just sleep

5. Whats your pet peeve?

People who rub it in my face that I’m young 😒 I know I am

6. What is the item numero uno on your bucket list?

Paris

7. Which part of your body do you love the most? You can tell us why.

I love my eyes because they sparkle

8. What are your five favourite songs right now?

a. I am your angel- Celine Dion

b. Don’t say you love me- Fifth Harmony

c. Suzanna- Sauti sol

d. My everything- sauti sol

e. Ghetto love- wizkid

9. If you had to work but didn’t need the money, what would you choose to do?

Make people’s hair and style them

10. What did you learn a little too late?

How to let go

11. Do you wish your skin was lighter or darker?

I’m contented with what I am now

My questions to my nominees

1. If you had the world’s attention for 30seconds , what would you say?

2. Do you like your name? Would you ever change it? If yes, what would your name be?

3. What do you regret that most?

4. When you’re worried/scared, what do you do or think about to help you feel better?

5. What’s your pet peeve?

6. What’s your item numero uno on your bucket list?

7. Which part of your body do you love the most? You can tell us why if you want to

8. What are your five favourite songs right now?

9. If you had to work but didn’t need money, what would you choose to do?

10. What did you learn a little too late?

11. Do you wish your skin was lighter or darker?

Waiting to hear from y’all🙂🙂

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My mamaa has been my greatest support system. She’s been there through thick and thin. Even when I was sure I was not my daddy’s favourite she gave me all that I needed and me not being daddy’s girl didn’t matter at all. She gave me life when things seemed dead. She definitely was my all.

So this day as I was going through my mummy’s phone she receives a text and me being nosey I decide to read it. It’s a love message, not from my dad. That really pricks my heart. I thought so hard who could that be, I was really disturbed. I decided I am not going to ask her anything until I do my own investigation. I think I should get a job as a DCI😆😆

I couldn’t keep this to myself, I decided to tell my older sister. So we all agree we’re gonna do the investigation then expose mum. That was really a bad move and I regret every bit of it. So I paid off some guys to give me the info I wanted which I got it,and so they were supposed to expose mum. It was on a Thursday morning and we were headed to work with dad, then there was a phone call which I really didn’t get what they talked about and here we were going back home at a very high speed with my dad sooo angry, I didn’t understand what was happening.

On arrival at mum’s place of work,which is near our home, my dad alights the car with a whip and he goes to where mum is and starts to beat her mercilessly shouting at her that she’s a hoe. Those words have never left me since then, only to realise the guys I assigned did their work and had already exposed mum and now my mum is facing daddy’s wrath. It was so ugly😒😒😒. Nothing could make it look right.

After the fight we had to have the meeting of confrontation and mummy accepts that she truly had an affair with that 18year boy. It sounded so baaad. Dad was so mad and decided to throw her out of our house. And just like that I lost a mother and our family was broken.

After a while I realised I needed my mum around but it was too late. My dad doesn’t love me and I’m not that much of a good girl so definitely, i’m always in trouble and I honestly have no one to take my side not even my big sister since she’s married and doesn’t live with us either. I want my mum so baaad. I was wrong 😭😭. I didn’t give my mum a second chance. I didn’t talk to her first before going out there to announce. I always wish I talked to her maybe she would have told me the reason she did that or even she would have stopped.

I want my mum so baaad. I can’t bare the pain and guilt of knowing that I am the reason she’s not with us, she’s not dead but I can’t see her. When everyone else is celebrating their mother on a mother’s Day I have absolutely no one to celebrate because I pushed my mum away when I could have helped. And I want to shout and tell her I’m sorry. My pillows are always soaked in tears. I am not daddy’s favourite I pushed away my favorite😒😒 it hurts. I can’t bare it. I want my mum. Mummy, I am very sorry. I know sorry can’t heal anything but I am sorry, I betrayed you when I knew I always had you. I wish I could turn back time. I know you were wrong but you needed another chance which I blew it.

I remember when I got pregnant while in school when everyone else including dad disowned me, you stood by me and even took me back to school after delivery. Mommy I’m honestly sorry. I want to celebrate you. Please come back to us. I am really sorry

Often than not you’ll always hear people saying words matter however much actions do.

In James 3:5-6
5 Even so the tongue is a little member, and boasteth great things. Behold, how great a matter a little fire kindleth!
6 And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity: so is the tongue among our members, that it defileth the whole body, and setteth on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire of hell.

The tongue is really a small organ but it sometimes builds people and sometimes really destroys.

You’ll go to a salon and the salonist will be like, “heeey, kwani unanyonyesha? Hii hairline yako si ameinyonya” And you wonder, before I came to the salon I knew what my hairline was🙄 i’m not breastfeeding in the first place, I came to do my hair not to answer your questions.i wish she’d ask”Ayaaa, what happened to your hairline” I mean that would be a nicer way to do that than just jumping into conclusions.

You’ll be hanging out with friends and someone randomly says “Na siku izi umenona, your forehead tho, Aki your pimples keep on increasing” And it sucks by the way. You just don’t know my struggles, you ain’t sure if i’m battling to love myself with my added or reduced weight, my forehead because I can’t change it or even my pimples because I’ve tried to work on them and they ain’t ending 🙄😫.

You’ll be having lunch with your workmates and while ordering you are like, “I don’t do meat” And they all turn looking at you with judgmental eyes then someone just says, “Na hii mwili unatoa wapi” Like seriously 😒😏🙄

Let people be I beg, sometimes if you have nothing important to say just shut up. Someone once said this people who talk too much are the same people who are sensitive with words but they don’t seem to learn. Do unto others what you’ll love them to do to you.

Let your words be few and with a bit of wisdom. Don’t just talk because people are talking. Sometimes silence is also an answer or even a contribution to a discussion. Just shut up if whatever you’re about to say will destroy someone. God used words to bring life during creation. How I pray that we may all gain the art of minding our tongue. Lets speak life instead🙂

This is a word that never comes out from so many people. I wish people would learn to say sorry.

Sometimes the people we hurt would have forgiven us if we said sorry, but we often want to keep explaining why we did what we did just to justify our actions but we’re never remorseful.

The Bible encourages us to repent. You don’t really have to know what exactly you did to repent and that’s why in most cases we pray saying, “forgive us for the sins we’ve done whether knowingly or unknowingly.” God wants to create a heart that’s remorseful within us.

Kind words are rare to find. As my friend says it, “they are not a flower that grows in every garden.” Appreciate the people who are kind, not everyone is. I actually find someone who’s sorry for what she/he has done to be kind. There’s nothing to loose when you’re kind to others.

People will hurt you and still come back like nothing really happened. I mean I know I’m not supposed to hold grudges but just say, “I’m sorry,” It really goes a long way.

Lets learn to let people know when they’ve wronged us so that we’re not left waiting for a sorry that will never come. Let your boundaries be clear for everyone to see. Someone said they’ll never know how to treat you right if you’ve never told them when they’re wrong. Let’s strive to always open up so as we dont go hurting over things we can’t repair because we didn’t draw the lines.

Just say sorry, it really goes a long way🙂🙂

Do you think love fades? (Please answer on the comments so that I may know your thoughts too.)

I once had a crush on this pretty petite girl. I did all I could to get her attention, lucky for me that it worked. She was chocolate, a 5.0tall with an hourglass figure even in her petite body. She was a goddess in my sight~ we all know beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. She was ever smiling.

One thing led to another and after a while I managed to win my princess’ heart and I truly loved her. Everything was so promising. We all knew what we wanted in that relationship. We had our low moments and we still conquered it all. They say love is a bed of roses and thorns but I think our roses were more than the thorns by faaar. Everything was magical😍💯

So this day on my birthday she came over with gifts and a birthday cake which we really devoured😂 we were all foodies🙂🙂one of the things I liked about her,she was real. While eating and having fun someone texts her and I happen to be the one next to the phone so I took her phone and passed it over to her. She looks at her phone smiles then puts the phone on the table. So they said curiosity killed the cat, I was so curious to know who texted so I asked and she says it’s a friend and am like “okay, is it okay if I read the text?” And she hesitantly says “it’s okay.” So I take the phone and reads the text and for a moment I stare at her. I bring myself together and ask her why she would tell the friend everything about us considering twas a male friend.😒Apparently the friend was asking her if we’re now okay and how is it going now that we were from a little fight before my birthday. She says I just needed someone to talk to and that really broke me. We were supposed to be best friends, solve our issues on our own🙄🙄but well we let it slide since it’s my day and she goes home.

The next day it happens I just had a bad day, while talking to my bae I realise am still madd at her and couldn’t take it anymore so I tell her let’s take a break. Little did I know that that would be the end of me. She says it’s okay. And that’s how she moved on and left me standing somewhere in this love life stranded not knowing where to start from, I loved her you know. I was willing to wait till whenever. Someone once said love never dies, if it’s true love it will never die. However much you guys will never get back together you’ll still have that kafeeling😉😉. So years went by I was still patient waiting for her to come back. She insisted she had already moved on and so should I. What was life without her, things were not working the way they should have and I really felt lost and broken.

It had been 2years already since she left and I couldn’t simply get over her.I tried going out with other girls during the 2years just to get over her and it was not working 😒😒so I decided to go back and try my luck this time, we went out for lunch, hung out and slowly she was growing closer and I liked that. And this day I ask her to be my girlfriend for a second time and she says YES. That was my happiest moment in life. She was mine I believed so, waiting was not an issue for me, I loved her.

You know growing up In a kisii homestead with a kisii man as your dad ain’t a joke. Those were among my happiest but still saddest times in my life, as a kid.

My name is Caroline Sarah. A 21year old girl who is slightly tall/short😉😉.I am chocolate in complexion and skinny😆😆I meant slender if it makes it look any better😅

I am a very social and outgoing person which is like 80% of who I am but again I am abit of an introvert depending on the day, time, weather, mood and people around me 🙂🙂.

I love swimming, writing, reading novels, and some bit of art just to express what can’t be said in words. I smile aloot🙂🙂actually I laugh a lot🙈🙈and also cry anytime am triggered to😂😂. I also love singing which I only get to do it in the bathroom 😂😂

I am a student at Kenyatta university pursuing Human Resource Management and a former student at Kenya school of law where I did my paralegal.

So yea what was interesting about growing up in a kisii home is you get to visit the upcountry so much and that used to be my highlights in school after holidays. The sad part about having your dad as a kisii man is you never really get to be close to him😒😒. Actually once he enters the house we all have to disappear to our rooms and get ourselves busy. But again we were raised up the right way🙂🙂

I am a second born in a family of three. My sis being the first born and my brother is our last born. I love them so much.

So yea that’s basically who i am🙂🙂